Happy happy joy joy
I read that therapy isn’t for learning to deal with sadness, trauma and loss.
It’s for learning to let joy back into your life.
Hunh.
I’ve seen so many people go to therapy and remain as fucked up as they were when they went in.
I attributed that to a lying psychologist and a counselor accused of SA. I mean, messed up AF.
Former friends of mine. Like, who are you to tell anyone how to live their best life.
But I have another friend in the industry who’s an upstanding citizen. And my Disney friend’s therapist has her reading about timeline jumping and the Fifth Dimension and shit. She’s lost some weight and gotten her life together. So, bravo.
I got to thinking about grief. It’s particularly bad this Christmas. And I’ve been sad ever since Mom’s diagnosis.
She was never lucky. Ever. I mean, she said she got lucky having me.
But I was always lucky. Shit, even yesterday, I got a flat tire … right across from Tires Plus.
It was mercifully still open on a Sunday night. And it was only $32 to patch.
Like, who has stories like that? Me, that’s who.
I watched “It Ends With Us” three times yesterday. I’m overjoyed that Blake Lively, after suffering a monthslong smear campaign by the director, dropped an 80-page lawsuit with receipts.
It’s like when Taylor won her $1 lawsuit against the guy who groped her.
Like, why aren’t women treated with basic decency by men. Why does everyone side with the men. Why does a woman need photos and witnesses and a spine of steel to be believed.
I am so lucky I never had any big battles like that. May I always be, if not worshiped like I deserve, at least left to enjoy my life in peace.
That’s another saying I love. Stop doing more to hurt people who have little to nothing. Let them enjoy that nothing in peace.
That’s where I am right now. Peace at any cost. The phone stays off. My brain, too.
A friend who lost his mom and her two cats this year hopes to turn his grief into something positive next year. I said I’ve never been so unmotivated in my life, so let me know where you find that energy.
Anyway, what was I saying earlier? Therapy can help you learn to welcome joy back into your life again.
That right there is an interesting intention for the new year.